There are those who found it to be their life’s quest from childhood to survive, to get up and try again. Resistance at all sides, you fight and struggle and fight yet again! My life was like that. The scripture:” The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” Psalms 34:18

These words brought healing to my heart. When we forge the trail out of pain, we need to learn to grieve all the losses, all the disappointments, all the tragic moments, and truly learn to let go, forever, of each crushing moment, or memory, and learn to forgive quickly.

“I could not possibly let go forever of all those painful things-you may say, ” I say to you I would never have been able to let go of all the pain of the past without God’s help. Revelation 12:11(NKJ) “And they overcame him (meaning the enemy of our soul) by the blood of the lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death.” It is the love of God for each of us, which helps us to be truthful to ourselves, then we may begin to grow in every way. Every one of us needs to grieve those things that want to destroy us, lost loved ones, lost vocations, lost relationships, lost goals, the list goes on and on. Every grief journey is unique. Some losses are so great that it is not possible to get over the loss on your own, and with the help of God we learn to move forward. Journaling helps me immensely. Throughout our journeys, in reflection- it becomes evident to us that without the protection of the blood of Jesus, we surely would have perished in the making of our testimony, but Christ protected us by His blood, and it was only the plan of God and His love for us that allowed us to live to give a testimony. King David wrote Psalms 40-here are a few things that “overcoming” brings to each of us: “He pulls us out of a pit of despair, He allows us to stand with our feet firm on a rock (of Jesus), (makes us feel safe), He gives us a new song, a song of praise to Him, many will see our lives change, many will come to honor and trust the Lord ( others may run away from us), He has marvelous plans for us, His love and faithfulness makes us secure.” There are many more promises in the Psalms, those are a few.

If you have found yourself at a place where you are tired of surviving, tired of overcoming, fighting every step of the way, it’s time you asked Jesus to be Lord of your lives, your pains, your brokenness, your crushed hearts, let Him come and make your life all new, He gives us our testimony and His precious blood protects us, and keeps us safe through our testimony. Each and everything that has ever happened to us was meant to help others find their way to freedom through our testimony.

Can peace be heard?

Where there is a lot of clamor, people cry out “Let there be peace.” “Or I can’t hear myself think.” Peace can be heard.

Where there is stress, confusion, unrest, “People cry out- Let there be peace!” Peace may be experienced in our minds. We can hear it.

Where there is interference, calamity or war. People cry out. “Let us be free of disruption, painful events, or loss from fighting. “Peace can be a physical sensation.

Oxford dictionary describes peace as, “the state of being calm or quiet”. However, peace in the Bible is quite different. Peace can be more than just the absence of conflict, or a state of rest. “It also means completeness or wholeness, and it points to the presence of something else. Having Shalom” (Hebrew)(GWTFTS) This was sometimes translated into “Well being, may you be well.” Again, speaks of wholeness, health.

Jesus is our peace with God. (Romans 5:1)

Due to our sin we were enemies of God and were separated from Him. (Ephesians 2:13)

But Jesus restored our relationship when He took our sins and died our death on the cross. (Ephesians 2:14)

He provided a path for reconciliation with God, and now we are joined to God. (Romans 5:10). We also have fellowship with Him (1John 1:9) and with one another (Colossians 1:19-20).

He also gives us peace with ourselves, (2 Corinthians 5:17)

Jesus makes us whole and He is our peace, I believe peace is many more things than what has been discussed here. Through Jesus peace is always heard.

How can we sense being new when we are frozen ?

There are events that happen to all of us that may leave us in a state of immobility. Some may call it being “stuck, or frozen”. There are jobs for you to do, responsibilities staring you in the face, an unfinished book, a family- when we are in this place it’s very difficult to embark on any new plans or programs because the only thing stuck people are able to undertake are those things that you can do in your sleep they are so automatic to daily living. We sometimes feel like we are suffocating with stress to think of trying to fit any other “new thing” into our lives. As we begin to heal { timing is different for everyone} through this process we begin to see layers of pain peel off, ever so slowly. The pain is sometimes so hard to live with that some people turn to drugs or alcohol or various other addictions. This only buries the pain deeper inside of us , and causes a much longer recovery.

Now sudden losses, death in the family , sexual abuse, abuse, divorce, trauma of any kind can send us to a place of {frozen}. It has been referred to at times as dissociation- especially if the trauma has effected the victim very deeply, this is seen a lot with death of immediate close knit family members, Then we take the time that we need to grieve all pain, grieve all losses and daily process the letting go , sometimes this process goes on for months, sometimes years.

I am so thankful that I made the choice to allow Jesus to come into my life , to help me to let go of all unforgiveness, to allow Him to live deep inside of my heart. He helped me to heal of all the pain of abuse and brokenness and He made all things new. His strength is made stronger through our weaknesses, if we choose to come and give it all to Him.

Matthew 11:28-29 Says:” Come unto me, all ye that labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.”

Give the burdens to Jesus and He will make all things new!

Revelation 21:1-6,,,,,,,and He who sat upon the throne said to me:

“Behold I make all things new.”

By Lia Francisco @freedlifecounseling.com

Today I am posting a blog entry from a friend of mine’s check out her blog she is a counselor to everyone, those in need and those who counsel people in need. Great teaching!

Silence is isolating. Silence is suffocating. Silence prevents healing. Yet, sometimes silence and isolation are desired by survivors of trauma and secondary trauma. Many people never discuss or disclose trauma they’ve experienced or are silent for years, even though the need for disclosing and emotional healing is so great.

Why Do So Many People Suffer in Silence?

Finding the words to ask for help can be so difficult. There are a variety of emotions involved, including shame, panic, and fear of the unknown. Children may fear being removed from their family’s care, worry about getting someone into trouble or arrested, or believe they will be viewed as bad. Adults may fear losing their jobs or losing custody of their children, or being viewed as weak or incapable. These are common fears with both trauma or secondary trauma. If the trauma is ongoing, there is often the fear that speaking up will cause violence to worsen, and this may be true.

People may fear being shunned or not believed. Self-blame is often present in the lives of survivors and they may believe they caused the trauma or that they are at fault. This can lead to a feeling or the belief that others will blame them. Secret keeping is often a part of trauma and secondary trauma(think confidentiality with secondary trauma).So it may seem wrong to break silence sometimes rather than the right thing to do. It also may be difficult to believe anyone can help the situation or that anything will change; there is an element of hopelessness.

Breaking The Silence

Ending stigma and victim blaming as a society starts with every individual. There is a need for community and to be connected to others who understand. I worked in domestic and sexual violence services for years, and later as a case manager with families experiencing addiction and trauma. Besides having my own personal trauma during that time, I was also experiencing secondary trauma. Bonding with co-workers became a priority, as we all understood each other and built a sense of community based on the trauma we had witnessed and heard. Having this support helped me immensely as did having a safe place to express my emotions that I couldn’t have explained to anyone else, I cannot stress enough the power of breaking silence, and discussing difficult topics, and how valuable this is for survivors. By speaking up about my personal experiences, I have been able to help others, and this can help you too. When I became a Christian and started to heal I prayed that I would never be stagnant in my healing and Jesus would give me opportunities to use everything I learned through my own healing process to help others. This has been a way to let go of my past, by no longer reliving my past, but instead using bits and pieces over and over again, to help others. There is power in my story, and there is power in yours. Every person can use what they went through for the good of others, and strengthen themselves in the process. You do not need to be a professional to impact others with your story; there is always someone in need. If you ask God to use you He will. In the next blog, I will be discussing more on how to be empowered and break the silence in your own situation. Written by Lia Franciso. Contact Lia with your own story -lia@freedlifecounseling.com

Thank you Lia for letting me share your material on my site, check out her website an future blog posts.

More Than Life

“You are my God. I worship You.

In my heart, I long for You, as I would long for

A stream in a scorching desert. I have seen Your power

and Your Glory in the place of worship. Your love means more than life to

me, and I praise You. As long as I live, I will pray to You.

I will sing joyful praises and be filled with excitement like a guest at a

banquet.” Psalms 63:1-5

King David wrote many Psalms to God, this was one of many writings that David wrote- most were written as a song he sang to Him.

Many of us search all our lives to have a thirst for love of a parent, a child, a sibling, a spouse or partner quenched. Often, we receive a desert instead. Those who were adored, supported, worshipped, taken well care of as they developed emotionally, had their thirst quenched for a time. Then each person adopts their own places of worship, where they may look for the glory that can be received in that place of acceptance, support, life in general.

I am convinced that wherever we look to find that power, that glory-we will fall short of the place of intimacy with a mighty God. People will always disappoint us, but knowing the love of God means more than life. As we age there are fewer people in our lives as we watch friends, loved ones leave this world. There is such comfort to me in knowing that the God who created me will walk hand and hand with me all the rest of my life. My heart and breath cries out all the days of my life , for every sweet moment in His presence. I am never alone.