I can describe to you where I think I am, but I am not certain if I am really there, what about you? Grieving is often unpredictable.One day we may feel we have the upper hand over the things that we are grieving, then the next day we may feel like we have only just begun to grieve our losses. It is OK to cry if you have to, stuffing a good cry never helps with anything, it can just result in becoming angry and frustrated in general. The most important thing is to recognize what needs to be done, grieve the loss, let go of the pain, and be healed emotionally.